Three Rules of Lovemaking

THREE RULES OF LOVEMAKING

By: Jude Cotter, Ph. D.

A multitude of sexual problems could be avoided if we all followed three simple rules for intercourse, says Jude Cotter, PH.D. a psychologist and sex therapist.

1. WOMEN FIRST. – The woman should be allowed to reach orgasm before the man. She may get there through whatever arousal patterns she needed – by stimulating her clitoris to her finger s ( his, hers or both ), through oral sex, with a vibrator, or whatever. But she should always be allowed to g et there first. This is not mere chivalry; its physiology.

“ When the guy is done, he’s done-it’s all over,” Dr. Cotter explains. After orgasm and ejaculation, men’s bodies need a period of recovery before they can repeat performance, and the older the man is the longer it takes. A teenager may need a minute ; a 50- year old man requires hours. Women on the other hand, require no such recovery time; many can reach orgasm repeatedly without ever needing a rest.

“ Also of a guy is having erectile problems, he obsesses; he worries; he gets performance anxiety.” Dr. Cotter says. “ But very few things can give a man a confidence like seeing her come first, that takes away 90% of his fears.”

2. SHE DECIDES WHEN IT’S TIME FOR PENETRATION..

The woman should determine when penetration will take place, whether she assumes the on top position or he does.

“ You ask a guy how he knows that a woman is ready for penetration, and he says, “ she’s wet / or her nipples are erect.” Dr. Cotter says, “ But a woman can lubricate before she even undresses, and sometimes her nipples are erect because she’s freezing. Other women never get erect nipples. The fact is, the only one who knows for sure that she’s ready if HER.

3. IT SHOULD ALWAYS BE THE WOMAN WHO GUIDES HER PARTNERS PENIS IN.

The woman should control how rapidly things proceed to climax. Allowing her to guide him in is just another way to make sure this happens. Also, even if his not fully erect by the time she’s ready, she can use his penis as a dildo, rubbing and stroking it against herself so that he is almost bound to have an erection before too long and then is bale to penetrate her.

In general, Dr. Cotter explains, these rules acknowledge something most people don’t realize: it’s the man, not the woman who is more sexually fragile. As William Masters, M.D., co director of Masters and Johnson Institute

Once remarked, “ The female has an infinitely greater capacity for sexual response than a man ever dreamed of.” It is he, not she who is more likely having trouble fulfilling his side of the sexual bargain. “ When a couple practices these simple rules for intercourse, though it wipes out almost all those sexual problems,” Dr. Cotter contends.