Monday, November 9, 2009


By Heather Rutherford

Not only is low sex drive a frustrating circumstance, it can be damning to a relationship. When one partner constantly is rejected by the other, tensions build. When tensions are at a high, it often is the case fights will arise and the strain will persist. Low sex drive is caused by any number of problems related to psychological reserves, hormonal changes, physical health and relationship problems. While it often is difficult to assess the main cause of the problem, a well-rounded approach to treating the issue will leave both you and your partner with a big smile...

Step 1
Talk with your partner about your low libido. Often the problem is because of a disconnect in the relationship. Whether there is an unresolved issue or you have grown too comfortable with your partner, this talk might help to break down some crucial barriers.

Step 2
Reduce stress in your life by making some time for yourself. The University of California at Santa Barbara states that many times, stress and anxiety dampen sexual desire. If you cannot manage your own stress levels or are feeling depressed, it might be time to seek a counselor so you can get your sex drive back on track.

Step 3
Eat more bananas. Bananas are considered one of the best foods to boost sex drive. Not only are they full of great minerals such as calcium and potassium, they also possess traces of androgens. Androgens are male hormones. These male hormones can boost sex drive in men and women.

Step 4
Have fulfilling and enjoyable sex frequently. When engaged in sex, especially during orgasm, the body releases endorphins and dopamine. These hormones help you to feel pleasure. They also are the same hormones related to addiction. When sex releases these hormones frequently enough, you find yourself wanting sex more often as your body desires that hormone flush.

Step 5
Enter a physical competition such as a marathon or sports team. Physical activity goes a long way in boosting sexual desire. Exercise can rejuvenate you by making you feel energized and more willing to engage in sex. It also has been shown a little healthy competition boosts sex drive. Furthermore, if a person feels unattractive and out of shape, they are less likely to want to have sex. Getting in shape might be just the thing you need to regain that amorous feeling.

Step 6
Talk with your doctor about your medications. The Mayo Clinic points to many antidepressants, hormonal birth-control methods and blood pressure-lowering drugs as the cause of low sexual desire. If you are on prescription medications and want to boost your sex drive, it might be as easy as switching your medications.

Step 7
Utilize aromatherapy throughout the house. A study released by the Smell and Taste Treatment Research Foundation reports some smells can raise sexual desire by 40 percent. To boost a man's sex drive, a combination of lavender and pumpkin pie seem to do the trick. For women, it is cucumber and candy-coated licorice smells. Place a few candles and plug-in air fresheners throughout the house for the best combination.


By Alina Bradford

If you love your sex life--yet wish the act of sex lasted a little longer--you are not alone. The National Health and Social Life Survey found that thirty percent of men orgasm within the first two minutes of sex. Many women also have this problem, though experts don't agree on the number of women affected. Thankfully, there are some things that can be done to help both men and women last longer during intercourse:

The easiest way to make sex last longer is by focusing your attention on your partner. Do things that makes her feel good. Concentrate less on yourself. Taking your mind off your own pleasure for a little while will make the act last longer than keeping your mind on the one specific goal of reaching a climax.

If you do find yourself reaching orgasm too quickly, there are several ways to stave it off. First, you can stop the sensation that is causing you to orgasm. Take a few minutes to simply kiss or give pleasure exclusively to your partner. If you don't like the idea of stopping, then try visualization. Try to think of something that doesn't stimulate you sexually for a few seconds. This will calm you down.

You can also buy desensitizing creams, such as Adam and Eve Delaying Creams and Adama and Eve Spray are applied to the genitals, and they create a numbing effect. This effect will keep you from getting aroused too quickly. You can buy these creams at brick-and-mortar or online sensual product shops such as Adam and Eve or from us

Even if the male does ejaculate early, the female can still continue to orgasm with the help of a simple, soft jelly-like ring that fits around the penis. The penis ring, like the Quick Release Erection Ring or the Erecaid Tension Band, keeps the member erect after ejaculation so that intercourse can continue. Many men find that it also delays orgasm. 

There are certain positions that men can do to help them last longer during sex. One is the body-to-body missionary position where the man lays on top of the woman. The woman and man use very little movement in this arrangement, keeping the sex slow and steady. Another position that can be used is woman-on-top. In this scenario, the woman is in control, and the man is submissive. The lack of control can keep premature ejaculations at bay while allowing both partners to enjoy the moment.