5 YEARS OF MARRIAGE ; 5 LESSONS LEARNED

1. TWO IMPERFECT HUMAN BEING = IMPERFECT MARRIAGE

That equation will forever be true. Imperfect marriage equals problems, hardships, challenges, tears, pain, heartaches and sacrifices added to your dream of perfect happy life together. After five years of marriage, gone was the fairly tale thought of living happily ever after. Now I knew my husband was never a prince charming but has always been a frog after all. Now I knew my husband was never a hero because he will never always be there to save  me.  He’s never been my knight in shining armor  because he will never always be there to defend me. He is simply my husband, a partner whom I can share my problems, my frustrations, my fears, my limitations with. Someone I can share my life with for good times and bad times. You see,  I was never a princess too, because after being married  I turn into a witch too. We are imperfect human beings bound to commit mistakes, hurt each other and cause pain to one another. Bottom line if we would like to survive being married, we simply can’t do it alone, we have to ask God’s grace and blessing. We ask for God’s grace that we maybe more understanding to our husbands/partners, we ask for more patience & tolerance, we pray that we may be more kind and loving to each other. Pray it helps..

2. WE LIVE IN OPPOSITE VALUES.

Night and day, joy and sorrow, abundance and scarcity, good and evil, hot and cold, success and failure. We live in opposite values, accept it that’s life. So if you’re not happy with your married life or in anything else,  accept it. It’s life everybody goes through with it, it’s how you react to it that makes the difference. When you’re in the darkness, rejoice and anticipate the coming of light. Everything passes. Just learn to accept things, situation, people as what they are. Always be positive.

3. TAKE CARE OF YOURSELF, LOVE YOURSELF AND RESPECT YOURSELF ABOVE ANYONE ELSE.

Most of the time when women get married, women have this superwoman mentality, hence would do anything to make everyone’s life in the family perfect except for herself. We are consumed of taking care of our husbands and the children that we often forgot to take care of ourselves. What happened next is we see our husbands dating women, who was just like ourselves when we are still taking care of ourselves. I knew I’ll never be able to be thin again hence the two  operation, but that doesn’t mean, I wont be able to go a spa anymore even just for a body scrub or a facial. But believe me you don’t need to spend a dime to make yourself beautiful, go to your kitchen, milk, egg, brown sugar, olive oil & kalamansi, will do wonder to your hair and skin. Learn to love yourself, improve yourself, develop whatever potential you have, never stop learning/educating yourself. Your husband will love you more for it. Lastly, respect yourself, nobody will respect you unless you show respect for yourself first.

       

4. YOU CAN'T CHANGE YOUR HUSBAND/PARTNER/BF, YOU CAN ONLY CHANGE YOURSELF.

If your bf a liar and he become your husband, he’ll still be a liar. Whatever bad habits/traits your bf has right now chances are its  still  the same when you get married. Don’t ever have the illusion that you can change him after you get married or else you’re bound for some heartaches. My husband, the Palusot King, for whatever reason he would always make palusot on whatever, I,  on the other hand would always point out his mistake and would try to interrogate him until he admit the truth. We would go on  a verbal combat, until ma highblood na ko sa kanyang pagka Pilosopo Tasyo and then I get mad. Until I got tired of his palusot and just allow it, never waste my energy with it anymore. We never fight  about it now, it’s given us peace. My husband’s  a self confessed Mama’s boy so when he visits her mother, it would take him hours before he goes back home. While away I would always text him or call him to go home already but still he would always end up going home late. I finally, got tired of it too, now  I would never  text him to go home early when he visits his mother, sometimes I would go with him to visit her if not I would watch movie online or go to the parlor or just go to sleep while his away. I think sometimes a simple change of attitude will go a long way.

5. MAKE LOVE EVERYDAY.

We  at least try.  It always feels good to feel your husband warmth beside you.

It’s a good thing if only for the love talk afterwards. You can express yourself more freely with what and how you feel. If you feel you are neglected that day or there is something you need your husband to do for you, that’s the best time for you to talk. Now, I know that’s selfish but that’s how it works, right? hehehe. The best thing is everyday you have a clean slate when you made a mistake or hurt your partner because you’re able to talk and you have the chance to say sorry or ask for it if you’re the one offended. I won’t expand on the sex thing, people have different take on it. Point here is for a marriage to work you have to talk, you have to communicate in whatever form that suits you. That’s the most important thing.

SURVEY SAYS....

TOP FIVE MOST DANGEROUS SEX POSITION AND HOW TO DO IT

TOP FIVE MOST DANGEROUS SEX POSITION AND HOW TO DO IT

According to Ranker.com, these are the five most dangerous sexual positions, and naturally, how to do them. I suggest never to try this unless you're an acrobat and a bodybuilder at the same time. If you insist to try, practice first with your pillow because you might end up in the orthopedic. The number 4 is manageable just make sure you have wall for support, just on the safe side, go down, better have the bed than the wall for support.  

1. The Triple Lindy

How To Do It:

This is a position that takes IMMENSE strength for both parties.

The female must have relatively strong abdominal muscles and be able to align her spine with the man’s penis throughout the entire experience.  The man must be able to lift the woman to the point of insertion, then settle her lower region comfortably into his thighs while leaning back, using the woman’s front half as balancing weight.

In a sense both genital regions act as a fulcrum.  If anyone can do this for more than a few seconds, congratulations, you lift weight 8 times a day.

What Could Go Wrong?:

Since the man’s strength is all that is really keeping the woman safe as she is being pleasured while held up and craning her back like she’s a mermaid at the bow of a ship, the worst case scenario would be: man drops woman, woman gets concussion, vagina breaks penis, man’s knees knock the wind out of the woman, making this one of the most daringly dangerous sex positions to do without leaning on anything.

2. The London Bridge

How To Do It:

This is “London Bridge” that is done with only two people.

To start this position, the man must get on all fours, facing upward.  If you’ve gotten this far, as a couple, congratulations to the man for being an Olympic gymnast.

Next, the woman must somehow straddle the man without knocking out his legs under him.  It’s a very delicate balance.

Even IF all these conditions were met, the insertion would be impossible without a few different pillows involved, as the man’s middle region will naturally want to bend inward, towards the ground. If someone made this work, then the woman would have to be a LOT lighter than the man, and he would have to have absolutely zero back problems.

What Could Go Wrong?

The pressure of the woman’s body weight, even if she’s Kate Moss, would put such a strain on the man’s wrists and ankles, that (even if he could get to the start position) wouldn’t translate to a finish for anybody unless the woman is both taller (and lighter) than the man.

If the man’s hand slipped and the woman came down with him, the woman’s center of gravity would be sitting at a shock point to the man’s spinal cord if they landed on the right spot, drawing the possibility for intense back injuries, pelvic injuries, and a really hurting butt for both parties.

3. The Pair of Tongs

How To Do It?

The man steps over the woman’s leg, holding the other leg up, and enters the woman while she dangles in the air, being held up by only the strength of her stronger arm. The man holds the woman as she holds on for dear life.

What Could Go Wrong?:

The amount of weight that would be leaning on the man’s left arm in this position would not only drag him down, but would probably strain/pull any of his muscles if this position were attempted for more than about a minute.  Kind of like when you carry all the groceries in one hand and decide to make it to the kitchen…only during sex.

Also, that is not an optimal angle for a man to comfortably wield something that is meant to be parallel to the ground.  The man’s penis, and any muscles involved in this position, could be tugged in the wrong direction (left or right) if the woman’s super-strong arm decided to give out at any point, bending the penis to the shape of a horseshoe or a picture-frame-corner.

4. The Body Builder (or the Buhat-Buhat)

How To Do It:

This one’s actually fairly common.  Start out against a wall, the woman will straddle the man, like a koala bear, and the man will then insert himself into the woman. The wall will provide great leverage at first until…

What Could Go Wrong?:

Sweat. The sweat glands from the woman’s back will inevitably trickle down to her ass, making the main support zone for this position slippery.  If in the heat of the moment one of the partners loses their grip, the penis could be bent the wrong way and the woman could suffer serious spine and head injuries.

5. The Incline Leg

How To Do It:

Don’t.

What Could Go Wrong?

The female will inevitable break the penis if she is on her tippy toes.

Penises are generally not meant to bend backwards and, in the position, an erect wang would defy the laws of anatomy. Even if this could work, the penis would bend in such a way that the woman’s rear end, as well as the man’s penis itself, if she ever “missed”, to devastate the man’s testicles.

Even if a couple were able to achieve this comfortably as a legitimate way to find pleasure in one another’s movements, if the female were to slip and fall backwards…goodbye wang.

Countdown to Valentines Day Part 1

Seven Days before Valentines Day, Khuracha will be helping you prepare for the big day! Seven days before the Valentines will be helping you decide what to wear first on the V Day. And since most of us love shoes, will be giving you tips on what shoes to wear...SHOES first...


9 CHIC SHOES RULES

1. BUY ONLY SHOES THAT FITS YOU WELL:  Even if you love that high heeled shoes, even if its perfect for your dress, if its does not fit you and you are not comfortable with it then don't buy it.Limping around in heels is not sexy at all.

2. BE BOLD, WEAR BRIGHTS:  An electric hue can amp up a look, including outfits in colors other than black and denim. Try colored shoes with white, khaki, and pastels. A scarlet-red dress, however, calls for neutral footwear.

3. WEAR WHATS APPROPRIATE: Flip flops maybe the in thing now, but you don't want to be caught on it while your on conservative office get up while flats may be too casual for a cocktail dress. And of course the sneakers/running shoes should only be used to gym clothes or casual jeans. For your date, if you are wearing your girly, flirty dress, it should also be the same with your shoes.

4. Going Outdoors? Say No to Stilettos 

It will be hard for you to walk on heels in the ground, it will sink into the ground and you don't want to ruin your shoes.Flat shoes are fine but if you want height wedges are perfect for you.

5. Make a Statement A spindly stiletto sandal is all about looking sexy, while a bow-emblazoned kitten heel veers more toward cute. Know what look you're going for, and go full out.Of course, most of us would rather be sexy than cute.

6. Va-va-voom Shoes Have Their Place Nighttime is the right time for attention-getting shoes. If you don't have a date on valentine's day and you plan of having a gimik night with your friends, this is the right time to wear it. If you still want to wear a knock-'em-dead look during the day, choose a closed-toe or peep-toe pump.

7.  Pair Sky-High Shoes with Tame Hemlines When going for major air, keep your hemlines at an inch above the knee. But when wearing a short skirt or dress, wear a lower heel or flat — it will balance you out and keep you from showing altogether too much leg.You may want to keep it tame, put your wild side where they belong.

8. Wear Flats with Properly Hemmed Clothes Make sure your clothing is tailored or you'll risk looking sloppy. A trouser leg should fall at or above the ankle, while skirts or dresses should end above the knee.

9. Think About Balance (And we're not talking about the kind you need to walk.) A thicker-heeled shoe grounds a heavily layered look, when something dainty could look off balance. The reverse also holds true. When wearing a wispy frock, a thin-strapped sandal is an appropriate match.

Locally, if you are looking for a date shoes, a knock-'em-dead shoes, i suggest you go to Janylin's Shop in Glorietta 5, they are in Glorietta but they got it all for you.:-)

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2010 SEXY NEW YEARS RESOLUTION

2010 SEXY NEW YEARS RESOLUTION : 10 MUST HAVE TOOLS FOR EVERY WOMAN

1. A PILLOW

 A well placed pillow can help you get into new position and add sexy variety to old favorites. Try tucking a pillow under your butt in missionary position, says Mabel the author of Sex and the Perfect lover. Or put it between your legs while spooning. Of course, it also works the traditional way: under your head.

2. VIBRATOR

The question isn't why get a vibrator; it's why not? You can use one on your own to explore what feels good, or with your partner to add a new dimension to sex together. Women who use vibrators report higher levels of sexual satisfaction with their partners, increased libido, and easier orgasms, according to research by REDBOOK Love Network expert Laura Berman, Ph.D. If you're a newbie, try a discreet vibrator. "It fits in the palm of your hand, and it also easily fits between you and your partner for stimulation during intercourse," says sex expert Emma Taylor. There are variety of vibrators in the market today.. You can choose whatever is right for you and whatever suits your taste and need.

3.  A LUBE YOU LOVE

Not only does lube make everything glide more smoothly, it can also help make sex last longer (because you won't dry out) and make it easier to try different positions. To find one, sample as many as you can, says sexologist Pepper Schwartz, Ph.D., author of Prime: "It's a very personal thing, and the fun is in finding one that you love and your body loves." Water-based lubes (locally you can look for Ultra Glide for a water based hypoallergenic lubricant) are best if you're worried about allergies, while silicone-based varieties last longer. Mix things up with formulas that tingle or warm. You can even find organic lubricants. But if you are looking for a lubricant you want to try locally, you might want to try Bliss lubricant. You can easily get it at Watson’s and Mercury Drug Store. It’s in sachet and it’s edible…How exciting could that be…You can have fun trying all it’s variant.

4. JUST FOR FUN TOYS

Whether they're tame (feather ticklers, whipped cream) or not so tame (fuzzy cuffs, whips), playful props add excitement to the mix. To see what tickles your fancy. You might want to try whipped cream, hershey’s chocolate syrup, cheese whiz, its handy and its accessible, it’s in your kitchen. Honey’s the best…It’s sticky and sweet and messy but will make you wild and wet and satisfied to say the least…Just don’t sweat your sheets..send them to the laundry.

5. GREAT SEX BOOK.

When it comes to sex, you just can't know too much," says Iam. That's why it helps to have a sex manual that covers the full gamut, from anatomy to vibrators. Yes, read, read, read and practice what you’ve learned. Knowledge is power and it’s applicable even in sex. I have read a lot of great sex books, may be I’ll write one myself.

6. KEGELS

Kegel exercises tone and strengthen your pubococcygeal (PC) muscles, also known as your pelvic floor muscles. "The stronger those muscles are, the stronger the intensity of orgasm, not just with a partner but by yourself," says Schwartz. Exercising these muscles also promotes blood flow and lubrication, which leads to heightened desire and arousal, says Berman. And you can squeeze your PCs during sex to add to his pleasure and yours — the squeezing action stimulates the hidden inner part of your clitoris. To do basic Kegels, squeeze as if you're stopping the flow of urine, then release. It’s that simple, you can even do it anywhere, anytime without anybody knowing it.

7. A MUSIC THAT TURNS YOU ON

Everyone knows that great music can set the tone for a romantic evening. The key is to find music that gets you in the mood, whether it's a classical favorite, an upbeat dance mix, even that jam band that was so popular back in college. To avoid having to stop and play DJ mid-makeout, fill a multidisc stereo with sensual CDs and put it on shuffle, or load up your iPod with a playful playlist.

8. SEXY LINGERIE

“ Just like putting on your running shoes gets you in the mood for jogging, wearing lingerie helps you look, feel, and think sexy," says sex educator Dorian Solot, coauthor of I Love Female Orgasm. And it doesn't have to be from Frederick's of Hollywood to be arousing. Wear whatever makes you feel sexy and self-assured, whether it's a cami and boy shorts, a satin gown and sexy heels, or a push-up bra and a thong. You can also use clothing to experiment with different roles: Do you want to be sweet? A vixen? An elegant goddess? "Find an outfit that speaks to a different part of yourself, and let it lead the way in the bedroom," suggests Solot.

9. EROTICA

 Erotica can get you in the mood, keep you in the mood, and spark a lifetime of creative ideas to try out with your partner," says Solot. And by "erotica" we mean any material that jump-starts your arousal and helps you plug into your fantasies — a sexy movie, an erotic story, an X-rated flick, even a good old-fashioned romance novel.

10. HONESTY

You can't slip it under your pillow or into your bedside drawer, but honesty might just be the most important tool of all. "Anytime you withhold anything, it creates barriers in the bedroom," says Berman, who encourages couples to keep an open dialogue in and out of bed. Feeling shy? Get started by filling in the blanks of these useful phrases: "I've always wanted to ________." "Have you ever thought about ___________?" "I'm not comfortable doing _____, but how about we try ____?" "I love it when you _____, but sometimes it's a little too _______. I'd really love it if you ______ instead." And, of course, the phrase no one can hear enough of: "You're so good at __________, I'd love to have more!"

Credit to: Allison Young

HOW TO BOOST SEX DRIVE

HOW TO BOOST SEX DRIVE

By Heather Rutherford

Not only is low sex drive a frustrating circumstance, it can be damning to a relationship. When one partner constantly is rejected by the other, tensions build. When tensions are at a high, it often is the case fights will arise and the strain will persist. Low sex drive is caused by any number of problems related to psychological reserves, hormonal changes, physical health and relationship problems. While it often is difficult to assess the main cause of the problem, a well-rounded approach to treating the issue will leave both you and your partner with a big smile...

Step 1

Talk with your partner about your low libido. Often the problem is because of a disconnect in the relationship. Whether there is an unresolved issue or you have grown too comfortable with your partner, this talk might help to break down some crucial barriers.

Step 2

Reduce stress in your life by making some time for yourself. The University of California at Santa Barbara states that many times, stress and anxiety dampen sexual desire. If you cannot manage your own stress levels or are feeling depressed, it might be time to seek a counselor so you can get your sex drive back on track.

Step 3

Eat more bananas. Bananas are considered one of the best foods to boost sex drive. Not only are they full of great minerals such as calcium and potassium, they also possess traces of androgens. Androgens are male hormones. These male hormones can boost sex drive in men and women.

Step 4

Have fulfilling and enjoyable sex frequently. When engaged in sex, especially during orgasm, the body releases endorphins and dopamine. These hormones help you to feel pleasure. They also are the same hormones related to addiction. When sex releases these hormones frequently enough, you find yourself wanting sex more often as your body desires that hormone flush.

Step 5

Enter a physical competition such as a marathon or sports team. Physical activity goes a long way in boosting sexual desire. Exercise can rejuvenate you by making you feel energized and more willing to engage in sex. It also has been shown a little healthy competition boosts sex drive. Furthermore, if a person feels unattractive and out of shape, they are less likely to want to have sex. Getting in shape might be just the thing you need to regain that amorous feeling.

Step 6

Talk with your doctor about your medications. The Mayo Clinic points to many antidepressants, hormonal birth-control methods and blood pressure-lowering drugs as the cause of low sexual desire. If you are on prescription medications and want to boost your sex drive, it might be as easy as switching your medications.

Step 7

Utilize aromatherapy throughout the house. A study released by the Smell and Taste Treatment Research Foundation reports some smells can raise sexual desire by 40 percent. To boost a man's sex drive, a combination of lavender and pumpkin pie seem to do the trick. For women, it is cucumber and candy-coated licorice smells. Place a few candles and plug-in air fresheners throughout the house for the best combination.

LONGER-LASTING SEX TIPS

LONGER-LASTING SEX TIPS
By Alina Bradford


If you love your sex life--yet wish the act of sex lasted a little longer--you are not alone. The National Health and Social Life Survey found that thirty percent of men orgasm within the first two minutes of sex. Many women also have this problem, though experts don't agree on the number of women affected. Thankfully, there are some things that can be done to help both men and women last longer during intercourse:


1. FOCUS
The easiest way to make sex last longer is by focusing your attention on your partner. Do things that makes her feel good. Concentrate less on yourself. Taking your mind off your own pleasure for a little while will make the act last longer than keeping your mind on the one specific goal of reaching a climax.


2. VISUALIZATION
If you do find yourself reaching orgasm too quickly, there are several ways to stave it off. First, you can stop the sensation that is causing you to orgasm. Take a few minutes to simply kiss or give pleasure exclusively to your partner. If you don't like the idea of stopping, then try visualization. Try to think of something that doesn't stimulate you sexually for a few seconds. This will calm you down.

3. CREAMS
You can also buy desensitizing creams, such as Adam and Eve Delaying Creams and Adama and Eve Spray are applied to the genitals, and they create a numbing effect. This effect will keep you from getting aroused too quickly. You can buy these creams at brick-and-mortar or online sensual product shops such as Adam and Eve or from us www.khuracha.com.




4. RINGS
Even if the male does ejaculate early, the female can still continue to orgasm with the help of a simple, soft jelly-like ring that fits around the penis. The penis ring, like the Quick Release Erection Ring or the Erecaid Tension Band, keeps the member erect after ejaculation so that intercourse can continue. Many men find that it also delays orgasm. 

5. CHANGE POSITION
There are certain positions that men can do to help them last longer during sex. One is the body-to-body missionary position where the man lays on top of the woman. The woman and man use very little movement in this arrangement, keeping the sex slow and steady. Another position that can be used is woman-on-top. In this scenario, the woman is in control, and the man is submissive. The lack of control can keep premature ejaculations at bay while allowing both partners to enjoy the moment.