A well placed pillow can help you get into new position and add sexy variety to old favorites. Try tucking a pillow under your butt in missionary position, says Mabel the author of Sex and the Perfect lover. Or put it between your legs while spooning. Of course, it also works the traditional way: under your head.
2. VIBRATOR
The question isn't why get a vibrator; it's why not? You can use one on your own to explore what feels good, or with your partner to add a new dimension to sex together. Women who use vibrators report higher levels of sexual satisfaction with their partners, increased libido, and easier orgasms, according to research by REDBOOK Love Network expert Laura Berman, Ph.D. If you're a newbie, try a discreet vibrator. "It fits in the palm of your hand, and it also easily fits between you and your partner for stimulation during intercourse," says sex expert Emma Taylor. There are variety of vibrators in the market today.. You can choose whatever is right for you and whatever suits your taste and need.
Not only does lube make everything glide more smoothly, it can also help make sex last longer (because you won't dry out) and make it easier to try different positions. To find one, sample as many as you can, says sexologist Pepper Schwartz, Ph.D., author of Prime: "It's a very personal thing, and the fun is in finding one that you love and your body loves." Water-based lubes (locally you can look for Ultra Glide for a water based hypoallergenic lubricant) are best if you're worried about allergies, while silicone-based varieties last longer. Mix things up with formulas that tingle or warm. You can even find organic lubricants. But if you are looking for a lubricant you want to try locally, you might want to try Bliss lubricant. You can easily get it at Watson’s and Mercury Drug Store. It’s in sachet and it’s edible…How exciting could that be…You can have fun trying all it’s variant.
4. JUST FOR FUN TOYS
Whether they're tame (feather ticklers, whipped cream) or not so tame (fuzzy cuffs, whips), playful props add excitement to the mix. To see what tickles your fancy. You might want to try whipped cream, hershey’s chocolate syrup, cheese whiz, its handy and its accessible, it’s in your kitchen. Honey’s the best…It’s sticky and sweet and messy but will make you wild and wet and satisfied to say the least…Just don’t sweat your sheets..send them to the laundry.
5. GREAT SEX BOOK.
When it comes to sex, you just can't know too much," says Iam. That's why it helps to have a sex manual that covers the full gamut, from anatomy to vibrators. Yes, read, read, read and practice what you’ve learned. Knowledge is power and it’s applicable even in sex. I have read a lot of great sex books, may be I’ll write one myself.
6. KEGELS
Kegel exercises tone and strengthen your pubococcygeal (PC) muscles, also known as your pelvic floor muscles. "The stronger those muscles are, the stronger the intensity of orgasm, not just with a partner but by yourself," says Schwartz. Exercising these muscles also promotes blood flow and lubrication, which leads to heightened desire and arousal, says Berman. And you can squeeze your PCs during sex to add to his pleasure and yours — the squeezing action stimulates the hidden inner part of your clitoris. To do basic Kegels, squeeze as if you're stopping the flow of urine, then release. It’s that simple, you can even do it anywhere, anytime without anybody knowing it.
7. A MUSIC THAT TURNS YOU ON
Everyone knows that great music can set the tone for a romantic evening. The key is to find music that gets you in the mood, whether it's a classical favorite, an upbeat dance mix, even that jam band that was so popular back in college. To avoid having to stop and play DJ mid-makeout, fill a multidisc stereo with sensual CDs and put it on shuffle, or load up your iPod with a playful playlist.
8. SEXY LINGERIE
“ Just like putting on your running shoes gets you in the mood for jogging, wearing lingerie helps you look, feel, and think sexy," says sex educator Dorian Solot, coauthor of I Love Female Orgasm. And it doesn't have to be from Frederick 's of Hollywood
9. EROTICA
Erotica can get you in the mood, keep you in the mood, and spark a lifetime of creative ideas to try out with your partner," says Solot. And by "erotica" we mean any material that jump-starts your arousal and helps you plug into your fantasies — a sexy movie, an erotic story, an X-rated flick, even a good old-fashioned romance novel.
10. HONESTY
You can't slip it under your pillow or into your bedside drawer, but honesty might just be the most important tool of all. "Anytime you withhold anything, it creates barriers in the bedroom," says Berman, who encourages couples to keep an open dialogue in and out of bed. Feeling shy? Get started by filling in the blanks of these useful phrases: "I've always wanted to ________." "Have you ever thought about ___________?" "I'm not comfortable doing _____, but how about we try ____?" "I love it when you _____, but sometimes it's a little too _______. I'd really love it if you ______ instead." And, of course, the phrase no one can hear enough of: "You're so good at __________, I'd love to have more!"
Credit to: Allison Young
